Showing posts from October, 2017

A Discussion of How Socialization Opportunities for Children Have Changed


Validating Children's Emotions and Eliminating Time Out (Video Clip)

Recorded at my presentation at the Child Care Connection Conference.
In each generation, we shift to do better for our children based on what we know now. We have to continue to do that as we learn more about how children think, learn and develop a sense of self.
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New Furniture is Nice But Interactions and Teaching Process Actually Matter

Appearances are not everything and in this social media world, we sometimes forget and focus on the wrong things. We are so used to pictures and appearance everywhere that we forget that what we see isn’t necessarily substance. This is particularly troublesome in the world of early childhood education.
I have toured the most magnificent buildings and heard teachers yelling at young children. I have been shown the new furniture and winced at the meaningless projects been done on them.I have admired the very expensive playground equipment while witnessing teachers barking at children, talking to each other and missing teachable moments.I have also been in preschools in at-risk neighborhoods that had older puzzles, blocks, furniture and fading paint but seen very meaningful interactions and deep learning.
Recently, several articles have been in newspapers, magazines and in social media about the importance of classroom setting.Yes, settings need to be developmentally appropriate offering …

Teaching Young Children About Body Boundaries: Understanding Consent Starts in Early Childhood

We send frighteningly mixed messages to children about the autonomy of their own bodies.Touch.Don’t touch.Kiss this person.Don’t kiss that person. I’m going to touch you but you cannot touch your classmates. It’s amazing that they ever sort it out.I propose that some children never do.They don’t stand firm behind their body boundary rights because those confusing messages have been part of their foundational lessons in early childhood.Those misinterpretations are then combined with a variety of self-doubt, self-conscious and insecure thoughts.It can easily lead to overstepping boundaries, getting into uncomfortable situations and a lack of respect for consent. Perhaps if we were more consistent in teaching about these important boundaries from the start, children would be stronger in their respect for their own bodies and that of their peers.As with most early childhood lessons – To teach it, we must live it.
We can teach consent in early childhood through thoughtful and intentional int…