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3 Parenting Lessons I Learned from the Life & Death of My Father

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Today marks the 15th year since I sat in a room with my father.  In some ways, it is hard to believe that 15 years have passed since his death.  When I look at my boys, however, it is entirely believable.  My sons were young when he was diagnosed with cancer and only 7 & 3 years old when he died.  They are 23 & 18 years old now.  They are men.  My father did not live to see his grandchildren grow up or his daughter raise her children.  I believe that there is something to learn from everything – even events that are untimely and sad – and I did learn so much about parenting from my father’s way too soon death.  I pay tribute to his continued influence on my life by sharing the most important parenting lessons I learned from the life & death of Leonard Maloff:
Children remember the tiny moments.  We went on trips.  We celebrated events.  It is, however, the seemingly tiny moments that are most vivid in my memory.  I have such sweet memories of my father singing show tunes w…

Today’s Generation Gap: How Will Today’s Children Cope?

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How do children learn to cope with the ups and downs of life?  They learn to cope by experiencing the good, the bad and the consequences from an early age.  They learn from having to find their joy in situations that are less than optimal.  They learn from parents who tell them to figure it out.  I am concerned about this generation’s ability to figure it out, to see the bigger picture and to cope when the rest of the world doesn’t care about their likes, dislikes, successes and failures.  In generations of the past, we were not taught to expect other people or institutions to bend to the will of the individual. Today, many parents seem to choose trying to make each child happy all the time over teaching them the life lesson of coping with all that may come.  If childhood prepares you for a tougher adulthood, what will happen to children who didn’t have to figure out their way through their desires or needs not being the center of everyone’s universe?
From the time I was young, I rem…