Showing posts from May, 2015

Let Your Kids Be Disappointed

Disappointment is unavoidable.  At some time in our lives – in fact, at many times – we are disappointed.  We may not get the job we wanted or the house we bid on or the behavior of other people disappoints us.  It is important that our children grow up knowing that disappointment is a normal emotion.  Stop calling the league when your child doesn’t make the team.  Stop calling the school when your child isn’t cast in the play.  Do not call the other parent when your child isn’t invited to the party.  Instead, teach your children lessons that they will be able to draw from for many years:  Disappointment is a normal part of life for everyone.  There are other kids who didn’t make the team, get cast in the play or invited to the party.  Even if they were the only person in the situation this time, it happens at other times to other people.  It is important for children to know that their feelings are not only valid but are also common.  There is no shame in feeling sad and disappointed…

Teens, Texting and Addiction to Technology at School & Home

I enjoy people watching.  I get many of the ideas for articles and talks from observing people of all ages.  Recently, I sat in the back of a room filled with learners and observed their behavior. Nearly all of them were looking at their technology.  A woman was in front of the room trying to teach and everyone had their heads down.  They were tap, tap, tapping on smartphones, tablets and laptops.  She kept talking and they kept tapping.   The learners weren’t teens.  They were adults. I was sitting in the back of a session for educators at a professional conference. Some were taking notes.  Others were obviously texting.  A number of people were playing digital games.  I wondered how many of these teachers tell their teenage students that they cannot use their technology during class.  I kept looking around and thinking, “How ironic!”
I attended a religious service recently.  I watched several adults check their texts when their phones vibrated.  I was pretty sure that someone acros…

Princesses Are Real, Unicorns Are Not: A Timely Lesson on the Bounds of Reality for Preschoolers

A princess has been born in England!  Of course, princesses also abound in our preschool classrooms.  Cartoon princesses are on shirts.  Children put on dresses and twirl around hoping we will say they look like princesses.   They dress as them on Halloween, visit them at amusement parks and watch movies about them.  The same can be said of superheroes and unicorns.  Today is a wonderful day to teach young children something about the bounds of reality.
Early childhood learners have a difficult time separating fantasy from reality.  In their world, anything can happen.  This magical thinking supports the existence of Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny, superheroes, unicorns and princes & princesses.  They do not know which characters on this list are fantasy and which can really exist. 
Bring your children to the TV and show them today’s news – princesses, princes, kings and queens are real.  They live in our imaginations as well as in our world.   Create one of the …