Blaming Children Without Real Facts: If You Didn’t See It Happen, You Don’t Know…

Two preschool age children are playing together.There is a noise on the other side of the room so you instinctively turn your head.Before you can turn back around, one of the two children is holding her arm and crying.You didn’t see what happened.
It happens every day in child care settings, at home, in playgrounds. Something happened but no one saw it.You feel that you need to find out what happened and you try to ascertain the truth from the young children.They will be hard pressed to tell you the facts exactly as they occurred. One child is emotional and the other is usually confused by the commotion or fearful of your response.
If you didn’t see what happened, you don’t know.You simply don’t know.It is possible that the child who seems to be a victim instigated the incident.It is possible that the child being accused of hurting someone didn’t mean to and it was an accident.Really, if you didn’t see it, anything is possible.
In the United States, we are innocent until proven guilty.Ye…

Tips for Teaching Children to Feel Proud of Themselves

From the time children are very young, they look to others for reactions to their endeavors.They giggle and look to see if we are giggling, too.They toss an object and wait for our smile and applause.It is a child’s first step toward developing a sense of self, figuring out the appropriate boundaries of behavior and learning about verbal & non-verbal communication cues.While these interactions serve a purpose, they should not become the only means by which a child determines his/her own worth.
From the time they are preschoolers, children need to be taught to feel pride in their efforts and accomplishments.They need to know that they have talents and gifts.They need to feel secure in what they bring to this world with or without the approval of others.There will be times in their adult lives when feeling secure and having integrated their worthiness will serve them well.
We can help children to integrate pride in their endeavors. Instead of saying, “I am proud of you,” tell children …